I think a fundamental part of online friendships that people āoutsideā fail to understand is how comforting it is to have friends right there in your pocket who will keep you company in good times and bad, listen to your rants, let you vent, be supportive whilst offering outsider perspectiveā¦
Need to be alone but need support too? Pocket friends.
Something awful just happened and thereās nobody around for you to tell? Pocket friends.
Need to let your feelings out but donāt want people to see you ugly-cry? Pocket friends.
Keep being amazing, pocket friends. You couldnāt possibly imagine how important you are.
āI was glamorous because of magicians like George J. Folsey, James Wong Howe, Oliver Marsh, Ray June, and all those other great cinematographers. I trusted those men and the other experts who made us beautiful. The rest of it I didnāt give a damn about. I didnāt fuss about my clothes, my lighting, or anything elseā¦.ā
some writer snob somewhere: Do not start sentences with But or And because doing so is grammatically incorrect.
me, writing my fic: But I donāt care. And you canāt stop me.
To my betaās profound dismay.
Okay, writeblr, I have a genuine question: I understand the logistics of why this makes sense. That being said, the last ten critically-acclaimed books I have read do this on the regular – and that is not an exaggeration.
Am I missing something? Is this one of thoseĀ ārulesā (emphasis on the air quotes) that everyone unanimously decides to ignore? If so, should I follow in the othersā examples or should I follow the rules? The rule follower in me wants to die every time I see someone do itā¦but it also feels right?
If anyone tells you not to start sentences with ābutā or āandā in creative writing, theyāre full of shit. If youāre writing an academic paper, sure, avoid starting with and or but because that makes them incomplete sentences (though I majored in English, did this regularly, and got great grades in my papers, so it depends on your major too).
But with creative writing, as long as itās like⦠coherent, do whatever the fuck you want. Youāre trying to establish a characterās voice, not win the Most Grammatically Correct award. People donāt talk or think in perfect English and neither should your characters.
If you see a rule thatās being picky about grammar rules like this, assume itās meant to apply to academic/professional writing only. Applying it to your creative work will not only bring you pain and suffering but also make your narration and dialogue stiff and awkward.
Speaking as a fiction editor, being a petty little grammar pedant is rarely useful outside of academia. As a writer you want to create something that flows, that engages the reader. Not sound like you were stunned over the head with a copy of āEats, Shoots & Leavesā, which by the way, is a terrible book. Donāt read that. The author is an elitist snob, and they might know how grammar works, but thatās the extent of their skill.
Basic grammar, yes. Good. Smashing.
But you can safely ignore anyone that tells you āsaid is deadā. Said is not dead, said is undead and wishes people would stop trying to replace it when itās a perfectly good word to use.
Repeat after me:Ā Creative writing is creative.Ā Ā Language evolves, feel free to be the next rung on the ladder.
(As long as you donāt replaceĀ āhaveā withĀ āofā because that makes no sense, and do break down your paragraphs into bite-sized pieces).