30 Things I Know At 30

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1. Set your own boundaries and define your own success. Don’t live by anyone else’s measure.

2. Unless you’re in an argument, stop saying “No, because.” ‘No’ is an answer all in itself. 

3. Self-care isn’t selfish. You cannot give what you do not have. You cannot serve from an empty vessel. 

4. Create a refuge. Every so often a disappearance is in order. Every sane person should maintain a refuge for this very reason. A place/places, where we can figuratively, if not literally, check out.

5. Don’t look back you’re not going that way. Nostalgia, like any drug can be a cure or a poison.

6. Likewise, never run back to what broke you. Otherwise known as: stop looking for happiness in the place you lost it. 

7. Learn to let things go. Toxic relationships, bad jobs, unsupportive friendships, hometowns that you’ve outgrown, lifestyles, etc. If it doesn’t make you happy, let it go.

8. Healing is seasonal, not linear. So is forgiveness. 

9. Infatuation is finding someone who is perfect. Love is realizing people aren’t perfect and it doesn’t matter. 

10. Don’t stop until you’re satisfied. Don’t settle for what you don’t want, for what’s not enough for you, healthy for you, etc. 

11. Failure is a far better teacher than immediate success. Wunderkinds are rare. Vast majority of success is hard work that has persevered through failure. It takes time for all the pieces to come together. 

12. You are yours before you are anyone else’s.

13. Start where you are, use what you have, do what you can. 

14. Home, like family, isn’t a place it’s a feeling. Define that feeling for yourself.
15. Love yourself, love yourself, love yourself. Don’t wait for someone else to do it for you.

16. Once you learn how much you’re worth, you’ll stop giving people discounts.

17. If you were meant to be somewhere else you would be. Embrace the moment you are in and make the most of it. Value the experience, the opportunity, the people.

18. It is okay to spend money on things that make you happy no matter what they are.

19. Relationships will inevitably deteriorate. It will happen when you’re six, it will happen when you’re sixty. Let yourself evolve past certain people.

20. Feelings are just visitors. Let them come and go.

21. Your life is your masterpiece. Edit it frequently and ruthlessly. 

22. The same boiling water that softens the potato hardens the egg. It’s about what you’re made of, not the circumstances. 

23. Be the person you needed when you were younger. 

24. Learn the following phrases: Stop interrupting me. I just said that. No explanation needed. 

25. There are no adults. Everyone is as clueless as you are. 

26. Moisturize. Floss. Use sunscreen. See a doctor. Be honest with that doctor. Take the occasional mental health day. Invest in sleep. Drink more water, seriously. 

27. Everything is photoshopped. Everything. 

28. Do no harm, but take no shit.

29. It’s never too late to be yourself, to make a change. 

 
30. Everyone has a story. You never know what they’re going through. Don’t be a dick.